It can be tough to know when it’s time to leave a relationship and move on. It can be tough if you’ve been together a few months and you think the relationship has promise, yet something isn’t clicking.
It can be tough if you’ve been together years and you don’t want to give up on your partner, but you feel you may have outgrown them. Whatever your situation, it’s going to be a difficult call to make.
Sometimes, you may be having totally normal doubts that all couples have. However, if you’re doubting the relationship more often than not, it could be time to move on.
Read on for 15 signs to look out for to figure out if it’s time for you to leave your relationship and move on:
- You Want To Work On It, They Don’t
If you want to work on the relationship but they don’t, it’s not a good sign.
They might think that nothing needs to improve, but if you’re telling them you’re unhappy and want to come up with a way to make it good for both of you again, and they don’t want to change, it could be time to move on.
You can’t stay in a relationship that you know isn’t going anywhere if you’re unhappy and they don’t care.
- They Don’t Want To Compromise
Maybe you know relationships take compromise, and give and take to work.
However, if they aren’t willing to compromise on something that bothers you, but you feel like you’re always compromising with them, it’s a sign they don’t value the relationship or take it as seriously as they should.
If somebody wants a relationship to work, they should be willing to compromise.
- Your Love Languages Don’t Match Up
Your love languages not matching up isn’t always a huge deal breaker. Reading the book ‘the 5 love languages’ can help you to understand how you give and receive love, and how your partner gives and receives love, too.
When you know this, you can better show one another your love and ensure you’re getting what you need from the relationship.
Only good things can come from working to understand one another better. However, if your other half doesn’t want to know, it could be a sign to move on.
- You Don’t Feel Like You Can Be Yourself Around Your Partner
If you feel like you have to change who you are for your partner, it’s not a good sign. You may be able to keep up a charade and pretend you’re somebody else for a while, but your partner should love you unconditionally if they truly love and want to be with you.
They should support you no matter what you want to wear, how you want to wear your hair, and whatever your interests may be.
If you think that you have to change and can’t express yourself freely, it’s time to move on and find somebody who you can be your true self around.
- There’s No Trust
Do you trust your partner? Do they trust you? Trust issues can be something somebody carries with them for a number of reasons, but that doesn’t mean they should let them get in the way of a relationship.
If your partner doesn’t trust you because of past partners, and they can’t move past feeling jealous and not wanting you to do the things you want to do, it’s time to end it.
If you don’t trust your partner because they have been unfaithful and you can’t move past it, again, it could be time to move on.
- You’ve Seriously Contemplated Leaving Them More Than Once
If you have your reasons for seriously contemplating leaving your partner more than once, then this could be a sign that you’re just not ‘all in’ when it comes to the relationship anymore.
Somebody like Damian Turco can help the process to go far smoother, but you should be sure that this is the right choice before you go ahead and take the next step.
- Your Partner Is Abusive Towards You
Get familiar with the signs of abuse and figure out whether you’re actually in an abusive relationship.
You may play down the way your partner treats you and convince yourself that it’s ‘normal’ or that they don’t mean it, but this is not something you should stick around and put it with in the hopes that it will change.
Abusive people need to recognise that they have a problem and get help, but many are in denial about it themselves. Your partner may be physically abusive, or verbally abusive. Even verbal abuse can have dire consequences, so don’t put up with it.
- There’s Resentment That Won’t Go Away
Maybe things have happened in the relationship that have led to major resentment that just won’t go away.
If you can’t stand the site of your partner a lot of the time and you’re always saying mean things to one another, it’s time to let go of the resentment or let go of the relationship.
- You Don’t Share The Same Values
Sharing the same values is something that will likely make the difference between whether you feel you can stay together in the long term or not. You don’t need to have the exact same views and values, but they should be similar so your future goals and needs can align nicely.
Your political affiliations, for example, should be fairly similar if you’re going to get along for a lifetime.
- You Feel Disrespected
There’s nothing worse than feeling disrespected in a relationship, but when you feel this can vary depending on your love language and other factors. Your partner may make you feel disrespected by making fun of you when you’re upset, or maybe they don’t take an interest in your life or opinions. Perhaps they cancel plans with you all the time.
Whatever it is, you need to bring it up with them in a calm manner – without using language that points the finger at them so they get their defences up immediately. If you approach this calmly like an adult and they continue to do what they have been doing, it could be time to say goodbye for good.
- You’re Simply Not Happy
You don’t always need a reason to leave your relationship if you’re not happy. Many people feel terrible because they don’t have a concrete reason for leaving.
However, if this is something you’re thinking about more often than not, and you have a feeling in your gut that it’s the right thing to do, then it sounds like only a matter of time before you end the relationship and move on.
Simply wanting to end a relationship is enough of a reason to end one, so don’t stay in it just because the other person ‘hasn’t done anything’.
- They Do Not Enrich Your Life
This isn’t about only being with somebody who can do things for you. However, a partner should definitely bring value to your life and enrich it in some way, as should you for them.
Whether this is your unique point of view, your sense of humor, or your sunny disposition, it will enrich their life. If you feel like they are bringing you and your life down more so than lifting it up, it’s definitely time to move on. Of course, everybody goes through hard times, so if there’s something going on with your partner perhaps you should speak to them first and try to support them.
However, it’s also important to remember that it’s not up to you to fix things for them – if you feel this way, then co-dependency could be the issue.
- They Stop You From Doing What You Want To Do
Maybe your partner is jealous, or simply not very nice. If they stop you from doing what you want to do, then you need to end the relationship. The key to love is loving with an open palm.
Both you and your partner should be able to have your own hobbies and interests without the other one getting upset. If you feel like you’re no longer doing the things you love because your partner doesn’t like it, it could be time to move on.
- You Can’t Seem To Communicate
Communication is key in just about any healthy relationship. Communication doesn’t come naturally in many relationships, though, as we communicate the way we have been taught to by our parents.
Usually, this isn’t in a healthy, calm, open and honest way. Training yourself to communicate can be tough, but it’s possible. If your partner doesn’t want to communicate like an adult, then again, it could be time to move on.
- You’re Waiting For Something To Improve/Them To Change
You can’t continue a relationship with somebody just because you see some potential in them that doesn’t exist yet.
If you’re waiting for something to improve or change for the relationship to be better, then you probably should get out of there now.
Is it time for you to move on?